Making that leap of faith to live with your significant other is a huge step, a life changing step. Even though this endeavor is one of many big life events that you will encounter, be aware that moving in is an evolution in your relationship. Every day will not be those steamy scenes in “The Notebook”, or epic turmoil like “War of the Roses” where you are in the midst of a death match. There are a few things that you should keep in mind when living with your significant other.
1. This Is Not A Test
Do not go into living with your significant other with the mindset that this is a trial and error ordeal. Living together is a commitment, and a huge one. Sometimes the going will get tough, but you must give 100% getting through those dark days.
2. Do Not Lose Yourself
It is very easy to lose yourself when you are living with your significant other. Naturally, your significant other becomes your priority and you become very concerned with their happiness. Remember, even though you are together 24/7, you still have wants and desires. It is OK to take time for yourself to do the things that you love.
If you made a huge gasp and nodded your head, then you know exactly what I am talking about. It is difficult when two people with their own set of habits, routines, and quirks are under one roof. Even though we may think our way is the best way, your significant other may have a different way that may lead to the same result. No one is perfect. Be patient and understanding when living together.
It may be easy to forget during times when you are upset, but respect is a major factor in your relationship and becomes magnified when living together. The things you do and say weigh heavy, so make sure you think before you speak and act.
5. Remember Why You Fell In Love
During those times when you are just upset over small things, think about the moments that brought you together, and the feelings you had for each other. As your relationship changes and as you grow as a person, things will not be the same as it was before. The one thing that will always remain the same is the memory you have falling in love, and the reason why you decided to live together in the first place.