We all have went down that path once or twice, maybe more like 3 or 4 times with the same guy knowing that the end result will be a disappointment. If you are contemplating if your current boo is the yin to your yang, here are 7 signs that he is not “The One” for you;
1. You Are Both On Two Different Pages
He is afraid of commitment and you want to be married in the next year, or he rather live in two separate apartments and you are ready to take the next step in living together. Everything goes downhill when you both are not mentally going down the same path. It can be said that it may take some time for one person to compromise, but if neither party is giving the relationship the “old college try” then you will forever be in relationship purgatory.
2. He Puts You Down
A long time ago, I was seeing a guy that would criticize my form fitting clothes, makeup, had the nerve to say I was a bimbo and “behind the learning” curve. All of this negativity was stemming from his own insecurities that he would lash out at me. If the guy you are with is putting you down in any way, LEAVE HIM ALONE. Being called out of your name is in no way endearing and emotionally abusive.
3. He Never Introduced You To His Family & Clearly Does Not Want To Meet Yours
Your guy always makes a lame excuse about how he is not ready for you to meet his family because he wants more time… even though you have been seeing each other exclusively for two years. Also, he says that no one needs to know him. This is a clear message from your guy that he only sees you as a fling and nothing more. If you have heard these statements, sorry to say, the relationship is going nowhere.
4. You Want To Change Him
Let’s steer away from the man bashing, simply because it takes TWO to be a couple. Some women have a bad habit with falling in love with the idea of how someone can be and not who the person actually is; TRUST me- I have been down that road. A person’s character traits are their character traits. If you can live with it, cool! If it is something you cannot live with, then it is time to peace out.
5. He Doesn’t Defend You
No one wants to go through the ringer when it comes to insults and ridicule. Whether it is a verbal altercation or physical; if he is the first one to head for the hills and not defend your honor, it is evident that he is not that into you.
6. Lack of Communication
There is no way you can have a successful relationship without being open and talking to each other. You thought staring at each other would last?
7. You Just Have A “Feeling”
I am a firm believer of listening to your instincts. If the relationship that you are in does not feel right and causes you to have that weird knot in your stomach, then you are most likely right. Sometimes the hardest part is letting go, but you will feel so much better that you are giving yourself the opportunity to find the right guy for you.