Women, we have a long way to go when it comes dealing with a cheating scumbag.
A long way...
I never understood why when a woman discovers that their significant other is being unfaithful, they start going through the Rolodex of women via their man's cell phone and start contacting the mystery woman/women? Bad Idea.
I was inspired to write this post mainly from the weekday radio shows I listen to and watching some of these women on T.V. beating up the woman that their significant other cheated on them with. I really just want to pull my hair out when I see this, well... maybe just the extensions I am wearing at the moment.
Ladies who like to take the approach of contacting the other woman, what is the worth in contacting a complete stranger?
Let's get real...the other woman has zero commitment to you. ZERO. She does not owe you anything, not even an explanation. That being said, you are wasting your time sending out a 3 page text/email saying every slander you can find on Urban Dictionary. What's next? Google Map her home and boil her pet bunny? Yes, I know in the movie "Fatal Attraction" it was the mistress that boiled the bunny, but you get the point.
When you go out of your way to hunt down and contact the other woman, it ultimately makes you look bad. You look insecure, because let's face it, you are contacting this person because you feel she has a "one up" on you for whatever reason you came up with.
You look foolish, because you are marking your territory and telling the woman to stand clear for x,y and z reason. Most likely you have been down this path with the same guy a couple of times.
You put yourself in a terrible situation, because all you need is to contact the right chick who is "dangerous". I don't mean "dangerous" as in psychotic, even though that could happen. I mean the "dangerous" smart woman that will get a legal team involved, report you for stalking and now you have to go to court, OVER SOMEONE YOU DON'T KNOW! What is it worth? It will not erase the fact that he cheated on you with her.
Instead of going to the random woman or women he cheated on you with, confront him.
He is the one you should be mad at.
He is the one that should give the explanation, that's if you even want it.
He is the one that has a commitment to you. Love, trust and fidelity, he is the one that is in a relationship with you, not those women.
So before you go on your rampage after listening to every Keyshia Cole album in your collection, think and give yourself a moment.Overall, he is not worth the hassle.